Thanksgiving dinner hosted by Holland church

Hello! coming up on November 23 Holland church will be hosting its annual free thanksgiving diner at the Holland elementary school right across the street.

holland churchThere will be two servaces one held at 2:00, and one at 4:00.

Please attend! It is FREE!

Daughter’s corner Issue #6

Hey every body! How was the summer? Now that every body is going to school I have decided to post an unordinary post in honer of school so here it is:


Here are some links to different websites with recipes (I DID NOT test these recipes) Enjoy!

A is for Attitude: Awesome or Awful?


Our first day of school was full of many ups and downs, but most importantly full of God’s awesome grace.  We began the day with our tradition of french toast with cookie cutter shapes in the middle then grilled with an egg in the middle.  This year Isabel and I worked together to prepare the first day of school breakfast.  This is a wonderful benefit of home schooling.  It is such a blessing to have my daughter work alongside me even when we are not in the same room.  She started the breakfast preparations and I finished it.  It is also awesome to see her develop some wonderful homemaking skills.  As much as I love to see her academic successes, I am overjoyed to see her embrace the beauty of being a Godly woman.  It makes such a difference when we have a good attitude towards the repetitive chores of the household, no matter what age we are.  One of my devotionals noted, “how often times we spend more time working on issues of the heart.”  These heart issues are character shaping and so important to keep in check, even as moms too.  When my attitude is awful, my daughter will mirror what she sees.  In our mother daughter relationship, as it is in any relationship, it is crucial to correct those sinful attitudes as quickly as we can otherwise we spend the day and evening full of  strife and frustration.  By late afternoon, I began feeling tired and frustrated from our first day of school and had not made time for exercise.   This is the moment I need to remind myself of the gospel and whisper a prayer asking God to give me a humble and sweet spirit and a spirit of thanksgiving and joy that God has given me a wonderful and unique bond with my daughter.  Proverbs 17:14 reminds us, “The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out.” and Proverbs 26:21 also illustrates this point, “As charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife.”  As I mentioned in my last post it is so important to keep our sweetness of spirit in all circumstances.  It is a great reflection of the gospel when we do. Paul reminds us in Romans 12:18, “if possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”  Although this is not humanly possible all the time we can always seek God’s hand through prayer and meditating on scriptures that produce right thoughts when we are unable to which lead us to right actions.  Be encouraged and keep on fighting the good fight of the faith.

Mom’s Moments #4 Training them up in the way they should go even during summer busyness

The most challenging part of being a mom of a 12 year old daughter is modeling balance and good habits and helping her to see the beauty of a meek and quiet spirit.   I started reading Bringing Up Girls by Dr. James Dobson last week and I keep reflecting on a paragraph I read in the first chapter that spoke to my heart in how I want to parent my daughters.

Children are a gift from God, and we are stewards of their welfare.  Training up our daughters in this sense implies helping them to navigate the cultural minefields that lie in their paths- teaching them eternal values, talents, and perspectives.  It means instilling within them an appreciation for truthfulness, trustworthiness, self-discipline, self-control, generosity, and sweetness of spirit.  It means teaching them modesty, morality, and manners.  It means helping them overcome the natural inclination toward selfishness, aggressiveness, violence, and slovenliness.  It means teaching them to work and learn and think.  that is just the beginning, which is why parenthood is such a daunting responsibility, requiring careful forethought and planning.

Before bed Isabel and I spend a few minutes reading a devotion and we are currently reading Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends by Sarah, Steven and Grace Mally.  It is a nice way to end the day and teach those much needed eternal values, and perspectives.  On another note, Isabel is working on making a daily schedule for our home school this year and also enjoys creating meal plans for the week.  It is a joy to see her enjoy using her talents to bless our family.

It has been such a fun and busy summer.  For a full month every Monday – Friday began with having to be out of the house before 9 am.  I know for many families this might be typical, but for ours it is not.  This is one of the reasons Home schooling is such a great decision for our family.

As the summer activities slow in pace, Mondays are often times a day to recharge our spiritual batteries.  Even after a Sunday of fellowship we find we need time to read for awhile, have a later breakfast time, enjoy some unstructured time and clean house.  Often times I don’t know where to begin.   One of the ways I stay grounded each day is opening my Bible when I wake up every day and ask God to bless my day and to help me to do His will over mine.  I also try to begin each day with exercise while I listen to Christian worship.   I usually like to catch up on Facebook, which can be tricky and cause me to lose my sweetness of spirit and increase my natural inclination toward selfishness! I need to use a timer to stay focused on my mission!

Now as we head into end of summer, we look forward to fun family time, a little more beach time, some fun camping trips with good friends and gearing up for school.   My prayer as we go into this home school season is that I will nurture  and train my daughters (and son) to be quick to obey and to be content in whatever the circumstances, as Paul instructs in Philippians 4:11

Daughters corner Issue #5

This is a great artical writen by:

Nicole Whitacre!        Enjoy.


Break Free from a Cycle of Mother-Daughter Conflict

Nicole Whitacre

I don’t understand what the big deal is! I huffed to myself, only half listening to my mom’s lecture as I prepared my defense.Haven’t I heard this speech somewhere before? Oh yeah, it was yesterday. I didn’t clean up my room then either. According to Mom, this has been happening a lot lately. I think pattern is the word she’s looking for. It’s a word she uses often.

Mom was not pleased with me. Being the discerning girl I was, I could tell. I’d really tested her patience this time. But I was angry too. I couldn’t understand why she was making such a fuss. Why does she insist that everything has to be done in a peaceful and orderly way, exactly as she likes it? Why does she have to make these silly rules? After all, I have a busy life. And I’m not an orderly kind of person. All I want is for her to understand and give me a little space. Can’t she let me live the way I want to some of the time?

We parted ways.

It wasn’t long before Mom came back to the (lovely peach) room my sisters and I shared. “Honey,” she began, “I was very wrong to get angry and be impatient with you. There’s no excuse for my sin, and I’m very sorry. Will you please forgive me?”

Our quarrels often ended this way. If I had a dollar for every time my mom was the first to admit her sin and ask my forgiveness, I’d . . . well, I’d do a lot of things. Mom’s humility melted my proud heart. I felt sorry for how selfish I had been. “I was wrong too, Mom, for not serving you and the rest of the family,” I said. “Will you forgive me for disobeying and leaving such a mess this morning?”

She forgave me freely, but I knew we had more to talk about. Mom always turned our conflicts into opportunities for both of us to examine our hearts. After analyzing her own motives and inviting me to evaluate her actions, she would help me to look at my heart. So she asked me questions such as: “Why is it that you leave everything so disorganized?” and “Have you stopped to consider how your harried morning routine inconveniences the family?” and “What do you think you want more than to glorify God and serve others in this situation?”

Clearly the problem was my prideful independence and selfishness. I loved to do things my own way. I wanted to leave my room a mess, without someone telling me to clean it up. I didn’t care how it affected my family. It was these wrong desires that sparked the conflict with my mom.

Perhaps you’ve had an argument with your mom or daughter today. Maybe you had one yesterday and the day before that. Maybe you fight all the time. Or it could be that you clash only once in a while, but when you do, boy, is it a blow-up! Or possibly your relationship is marked by constant tension and unspoken bitterness. It’s like the elephant in the living room that no one talks about. Or you may be a mother-daughter pair who only experience relatively minor and infrequent clashes. But no matter your conflict variation, you feel lost in a jungle of disagreements.

Sinful mothers and sinful daughters living together in a sinful world means that conflict is inevitable. You may have noticed that many of our conflicts occur right within our own families, and consequently we sin against the people we love the most. Theologian John Stott points out that because of the Fall, family relationships are tainted by sin: “For the family life which God created at the beginning and pronounced to be ‘good’ was spoiled by human rebellion and selfishness. Relationships fell apart. Society was fractured.”1

But there is good news. It doesn’t have to stay this way. By God’s amazing grace, we can resolve any argument, regardless of how severe it has become or how long it has lasted. James 4 shows us a clear path out of the jungle of conflict. To guide us through these verses, I’m going to borrow my dad’s sermon notes. Besides being a great dad, he’s been a pastor for many years; so he has a lot more wisdom than I do. His message — “Cravings and Conflict” — has completely revolutionized the way I think about and work through conflict.2 (Thanks, Dad!)

Let’s begin by reading James 4:1-2: “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel.”

Dad points out three truths:

1. Conflict is worse than we think.

2. Conflict is simpler than we think.

3. Conflict is easier to resolve than we think.

Let’s start with the bad news: Conflict is worse than we think. I doubt that many of us consider our mother-daughter conflict to be as serious as it really is. For example, have you ever employed one of the following phrases to describe your relationship?

• We just don’t get along.

• We have issues.

• We’re wired differently.

• Our personalities clash.

• We have different preferences.

• We don’t see things the same way.

If we’re honest, I’m sure we’d all have to admit to using phrases such as these to brush aside our disagreements. But God uses stronger terms than “personality clash” or “differing preferences” to depict our conflict. He uses words such as “coveting” and “war” and “murder.” Our anger and quarrelling and nasty words are to God as serious as if we were at war with each other. He even compares them to murder. How sobering.

The situation appears even more grim when we realize that our conflict isn’t simply a disagreement between mother and daughter. When we quarrel and fight, we are disobeying God. We are rebelling against His great command to love one another. We are despising His Word that says, “the anger of man does not produce the righteousness that God requires” (James 1:20). Only when we agree with God, that our sin against each other is also sin against Him, can we make progress toward resolving our conflicts. And that’s key – our goal shouldn’t be to avoid conflict altogether, but to resolve it when it occurs.

But though serious, our conflicts are also simpler than we think. I know it doesn’t always feel that way. Conflicts can seem complicated. For example, have you ever been smack in the middle of a fight, only to forget what you were mad about in the first place? I certainly have. And sometimes conflict hits you out of nowhere. One minute you’re chatting amicably, and the next thing you know, you’re in a heated argument. What just happened? Then there is the recurring conflict, the one you could set your clock by. You know it’s coming, but you can’t seem to get out of its way. And so it happens over and over and over again.

Scripture exposes conflicts for the simpletons they really are. In answer to the question: “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you?” God responds with a rhetorical question of His own: “Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have” (James 4:1-2). Inside the freight train of every conflict is one powerful engine: a sinful desire for something that we want but don’t get. Another word for this sinful desire is a craving. Counselor David Powlison remarks, “Cravings underlie conflicts.”3

Conflicts don’t create the problem. They reveal the problem. They expose the sinful cravings lurking in our hearts. When we don’t get what we crave, we quarrel and fight. It’s that simple. And this truth — that cravings underlie conflicts — is the key to resolving even the most complicated mother-daughter disagreements.

Take your most recent conflict, for example. What did you crave that you weren’t getting? Did you want to be left alone, be understood, have your own way, or be in control? Was it that you weren’t getting the appreciation, recognition, or affirmation you thought you deserved? Or maybe you didn’t want to clean your room, take care of your siblings, or do whatever it was your mom told you to do. Perhaps you longed to get even, inflict hurt, be right, or win the argument.

At first glance, many of these desires don’t seem like a big deal. But when we are willing to fight in order to get them, it’s a sure sign they are a bigger deal than we think. They have developed into sinful cravings. As Dr. Powlison (paraphrasing John Calvin) writes: “The evil in our desires often lies not in what we want but that we want it too much.”4

Our own evil desires — and not the other person’s — must be our first and chief concern. God reminds us in James 4 that the root cause of conflict is the “passions that are at war within you” (emphasis added). Not the other person, but you. So if we point our finger before repenting of our own sinful cravings, we’ve strayed from the path that leads out of Conflict Jungle.

Moms, may I encourage you to set a godly example by being the first to ask forgiveness for your sinful cravings? Take it from a daughter — the swiftest way to your daughter’s heart begins with humility. Paul Tripp says it plainly: “Here is a good rule: Deal with yourself before you deal with your teenager (Matt. 7:3-5).”5 But, girls, let’s not sit back and wait on Mom. Let’s race to see who will be the first to repent of sinful desires. Why? Because it’s a race to win for the glory of God. And now that we understand how simple conflict really is, nothing should hold us back.

Conflict is also easier to resolve than we think. Seeking forgiveness from one another, and talking through the root of our conflicts are certainly keys to resolution. But there is really one vital thing we must do to stop the brutal cycle of mother-daughter disagreements. James 4:10 records the solution to conflict: “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.”

That’s it. No exception clause. No writing 100 times on the blackboard: “I will not fight again.” No penance. It’s that easy. We simply need to humble ourselves before God and confess our sins to Him and to our mother or daughter.

But as my dad says, “It can only be this easy because our Savior has done the unimaginably difficult.” Jesus died on the cross, crushed by the weight of our sinful conflicts. He bore the wrath of God that we deserved for our fighting and quarrelling. Because of Jesus’ work on the cross, we can humble ourselves, repent from our evil desires, and be reconciled to God and to each other. Scripture invites all who are in conflict: “Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the LORD, that he may have compassion on him, and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon” (Isa. 55:7). Resolving conflict is easy because Jesus Christ has already done the incredibly hard work on the cross.

So the next time you find yourself in the midst of a mother-daughter argument, remember that James 4 points the way out of Conflict Jungle. Your conflict is worse than you think, simpler than you think, and easier to resolve than you think. Mothers and daughters who quickly and consistently work to resolve their conflicts will be best equipped to pass on the language of biblical womanhood.

1. John R.W. Stott, The Message of Ephesians (Downers Grove, Ill.: InterVarsity Press, 1979), 244.

2. Much of this chapter has been adapted from “Cravings and Conflict,” an audio message by C. J. Mahaney, available at

3. David Powlison, Seeing with New Eyes (Phillipsburg, N.J.: P&R Publishing, 2003), 151.

4. David Powlison, “Anger, Part 1: Understanding Anger,” The Journal of Biblical Counseling, Vol. 14, No. 1 (Fall 1995): 42.

5. Paul David Tripp, Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens (Phillipsburg, N.J.: P&R Publishing, 2001), 77.

This column is part of an ongoing series on Mother-Daughter Conversations on Biblical Womanhood. Click here for last month’s installment.

Carolyn Mahaney is a wife, mother, homemaker, and the author of Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother, and Girl Talk: Mother-Daughter Conversations on Biblical Womanhood. During her more than 30 years as a pastor’s wife, Carolyn has spoken to women in many churches and conferences, including those of Sovereign Grace Ministries, which her husband, C.J., leads. C.J. and Carolyn have three married daughters and one twelve-year-old son, Chad.

Nicole Mahaney Whitacre is the oldest daughter of C.J. and Carolyn Mahaney, as well as a wife, mother, and homemaker. She assisted her mother with Feminine Appeal, and is the co-author of Girl Talk. Nicole and her husband, Steve, have one son, Jack.

Carolyn and her three daughters keep a weblog for women in all seasons of life, also entitled “Girl Talk.”

This column was adapted for Crosswalk from Girl Talk: Mother-Daughter Conversations on Biblical Womanhood(Crossway 2005) by Carolyn Mahaney and Nicole Mahaney Whitacre © 2005 (Used by permission of Crossway Books, a division of Good News Publishers, Wheaton, IL 60187,

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Mother and Daughter Healthy Habits

Habit is defined as a settled or regular tendency or practice, esp. one that is hard to give up.

Mothers and daughters have many habits that can be cultivated each and every day.  How do we cultivate the healthy habits instead of the unhealthy, sinful habits?I ask myself this daily many, many times! Especially as a homeschooling mom.  Choosing to home school means less “me” time for us moms.  But really even if I wasn’t a homeschooling mom, for a working mom or a stay at home mom there really isn’t a surplus of “me” time.  My desire is to teach my daughter and children how to live out the gospel daily and see the blessings that God gives to us.  Some days I am more successful than others.  How do we overcome the unhealthy habits?

This morning, I was filing Isabel’s nails and I filed one too short and instantly an unhealthy habit sprung up and there was no turning back! What was the unhealthy habit? Both of our feelings were hurt. Isabel was hurt because physically it hurt and emotionally it hurts your heart when someone you spend most of your time with hurts you.  I was hurt because she had an unforgiving attitude and I couldn’t undo the pain.  We were stuck in a pattern of sin, an unhealthy habit, resentment (Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly).

I began to pray immediately quietly as I tried to think of a Gospel minded solution.  I didn’t walk away in a Spirit of anger, as I have done countless times in the past, another unhealthy habit.  Instead, I stopped and apologized and looked into Isabel’s beautiful brown eyes.  I then walked into the kitchen where she could still see me, but also giving Isabel space to think over my apology.  About a minute later, She apologized also.  I walked back over to our dining room table and said I forgave you and I love you.  We then were able to get on with our home schooling day.  My heart’s desire is to break these unhealthy habits and restore our relationship by creating healthy habits now, so as Isabel grows into a young woman, we will be able to communicate with grace and gentleness.  There is no way any Christian relationship can be restored without divine intervention from the Holy Spirit.  I want to teach my daughter to hear His voice, even in the midst of trials and sin and not be ruled by her emotions which are always changing.

Each and everyday God gives us opportunities to create healthy habits.  May we have eyes to see those opportunities to live out the Gospel and teach our daughters how to live it out by example.  “


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Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things Philippians 4:8

Daughters corner issue #4

Hi! It’s me again, I’ve decided to  write once a month.

Love (<3) ?

You may have seen tee-shirts with the word love written on them, and when you see them what do you think of ? I personally think of fashion and how cool shirts like that are, but what should we think of when we see the word love? We should think of the giver and maker of love, not just a tee-shirt! For an example, whenever I see a really good movie I usually say, “Oh that was really good!” (and then I talk about it for about three days afterward!) But some time during the next three days I start to think about the producer, the director, and all of the actors that played my favorite characters in that movie! But we should do the same thing with the word love, no not say “Oh love is so good.” and talk about it for three days! What I am trying to say is that we should think of the producer of love and who exactly is that read 1 John 4:7-8 to find out, than click on the link below and listen. It’s really good

1 John 4:7-8

Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

daughters corner issue #3

Hi! It’s me again sorry that I couldn’t write but I am going to try to write every week now! For the next two weeks I am going to write about prayer, then it will be May and I will write about a different topic.

Why pray?

Can you imagine going a week without communicating with your bff? How about a month? What if you only talked to her when you had to, and when you did you only said something like this, “Hi. It’s a nice day today.”  You probably wouldn’t be very good friends. How do you think God feels when you pray? Does he feel like you’re talking to him  from your heart or does he not feel very connected to you. I looked up the definition of prayer:


  1. A solemn request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God.

                                                                                                                    examples of prayer

If you want to ask for help you could pray some thing like this “Dear God, PLESE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

If you want to say thanks than you could say “Dear God, thank you for every thing that you have done for me today and every day”

You don’t have to say these prayers but just that pops into your head, sing a song of praise to him, tell Him all about your day, anything! I’m sure God would love to hear from you

Mom’s Moment Issue #3 :Short and Sweet Devotion

I was reading Morning and Evening  by Charles H. Spurgeon this morning and thinking about Spurgeon’s view of Grace, “Grace,whether it’s work be to pardon, to purify, to preserve, to strengthen, to enlighten, to quicken, or to restore, is always to be had from Him freely and without price;”  His devotional was based on 2 Timothy 2:1 Be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.

I see His Grace daily in our Mother Daughter relationship, paving the way for my relationship with my two younger children.  In the past 12 years, I see God’s grace more abundantly every day, it is a progressive process that by no means has happened overnight and when we have a busy day like yesterday, I see it all the more clearly in days like today, and it is not only with my 12-year-old daughter, but with my husband and other children, as well.  Here are a few examples, I would like to share, When I forget to do a wash, Jim graciously will put one in the wash, instead of  grumbling that he needs clean clothes, When Jim is exhausted after a day of work and I take charge of the bedtime routine or vice versa instead of taking our exhaustion out on each other and the children because we are tired, When I have to repeat myself  over and over  to my  6-year-old daughter and she says, “I love you, Mommy”.instead of back biting with a negative countenance and commentary  When my children’s rooms are untidy and I pick up the clothes on the floor and tidy their desktops instead of nagging them to do it RIGHT NOW or ELSE or folding clean laundry on my 12 year old’s bed instead of expecting her to be responsible when she has had a full day of activities,  or I smile and sweetly speak to my 9-year-old son, who is in a grumpy mood instead of snapping and verbally rebuking him.  When we are truly undeserving of this gift of grace this is the time God calls us to live out the gospel and have mercy and grace to pardon, to purify, to preserve, to strengthen, to enlighten, to quicken, or to restore one another.   When we choose to forgive time and time again, seven times seventy-seven (Matthew 18:22), aren’t we showing the people God has placed in our lives the love of Christ?

This grace is a gift as the Bible clearly states in Ephesians 2:8  For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith–and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God–


The “I am board of snow” post

 Pictures from the Snow

 Image Our trampoline Image He is on a yardstick!!!!!

Image My brother was bored so he put on my sisters dance skirt 🙂

All of these pictures were taken inside. (Too cold outside) This is our new England winter, last year we were spoiled. We are hoping and praying that we won’t lose power.

  Anybody have any Ideas on how to get through the winter 

 Then post them below PLEASE!!!!!!!