Hi! It’s me again sorry that I couldn’t write but I am going to try to write every week now! For the next two weeks I am going to write about prayer, then it will be May and I will write about a different topic.
Can you imagine going a week without communicating with your bff? How about a month? What if you only talked to her when you had to, and when you did you only said something like this, “Hi. It’s a nice day today.” You probably wouldn’t be very good friends. How do you think God feels when you pray? Does he feel like you’re talking to him from your heart or does he not feel very connected to you. I looked up the definition of prayer:
A solemn request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God.
examples of prayer
If you want to ask for help you could pray some thing like this “Dear God, PLESE HELPME!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you want to say thanks than you could say “Dear God, thank you for every thing that you have done for me today and every day”
You don’t have to say these prayers but just that pops into your head, sing a song of praise to him, tell Him all about your day, anything! I’m sure God would love to hear from you
I was reading Morning and Evening by Charles H. Spurgeon this morning and thinking about Spurgeon’s view of Grace, “Grace,whether it’s work be to pardon, to purify, to preserve, to strengthen, to enlighten, to quicken, or to restore, is always to be had from Him freely and without price;” His devotional was based on 2 Timothy 2:1 Be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.
I see His Grace daily in our Mother Daughter relationship, paving the way for my relationship with my two younger children. In the past 12 years, I see God’s grace more abundantly every day, it is a progressive process that by no means has happened overnight and when we have a busy day like yesterday, I see it all the more clearly in days like today, and it is not only with my 12-year-old daughter, but with my husband and other children, as well. Here are a few examples, I would like to share, When I forget to do a wash, Jim graciously will put one in the wash, instead of grumbling that he needs clean clothes, When Jim is exhausted after a day of work and I take charge of the bedtime routine or vice versa instead of taking our exhaustion out on each other and the children because we are tired, When I have to repeat myself over and over to my 6-year-old daughter and she says, “I love you, Mommy”.instead of back biting with a negative countenance and commentary When my children’s rooms are untidy and I pick up the clothes on the floor and tidy their desktops instead of nagging them to do it RIGHT NOW or ELSE or folding clean laundry on my 12 year old’s bed instead of expecting her to be responsible when she has had a full day of activities, or I smile and sweetly speak to my 9-year-old son, who is in a grumpy mood instead of snapping and verbally rebuking him. When we are truly undeserving of this gift of grace this is the time God calls us to live out the gospel and have mercy and grace to pardon, to purify, to preserve, to strengthen, to enlighten, to quicken, or to restore one another. When we choose to forgive time and time again, seven times seventy-seven (Matthew 18:22), aren’t we showing the people God has placed in our lives the love of Christ?
This grace is a gift as the Bible clearly states in Ephesians 2:8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith–and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God–
This is one of the verses that God put on my heart as I began to grow in my Christian faith. I had been thinking about it recently. Sometimes when mothers and daughters communicate it is more like we are clashing in our viewpoints. It can be challenging to naturally say or do the right thing. One of us always wants to get the last word or get our point across by stomping our feet or raising our voice. Is it even possible to be still and know that He is God? No, not in and of ourselves, it is only possible through His amazing grace by sending us His Holy Spirit to minister to us in those moments when we want nothing more than to sin, even when we know it is wrong. “Instead of giving thanks to Him and humbly submitting to His rule over our life, We have rebelled against Him and have actually sought to exalt ourselves above Him. Going our own way and living according to our own wisdom, we have broken countless times either the letter or the spirit of every one of God’s Ten Commandments. Thinking ourselves to be wise, we have shown ourselves to be fools… We are completely unable to save ourselves or even to make one iota of a contribution to our own salvation. However, what we could not do, God did- and in doing it, He did it all, sending His own Son into the world to die on the cross for our sins, thereby showing us unfathomable love… No one could ever love us more or better than Jesus.”( The Gospel Primer by Milton Vincent pg.59 & 61 italicized print first person changed from I to We and my to Our) .
The issue here is not our sin against each other, but our sin against God and our desperate need for a Savior. “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8) It is not until we humble ourselves before Him and ask Him to renew our faith and repent of our sin, not only what we do or say, but what we think, that we can be justified, renewed and restored in His righteousness. “God’s grace abounds to us even through our trials.” (The Gospel Primer by Milton Vincent pg.63)
So even in our sinful clashing moments in our mother daughter conversations, we can trust that God is and always will be at work and He will bring us to where we need to be. Sometimes we will make the choice to express our feelings in a hurtful and thoughtless way and we will forget to Be still and know that He is God. (Psalm 46:10) Or forget in our anger to not sin, and on our beds, search our hearts and be silent, as Psalm 4:4 instructs. We can be assured that “God does see our sins, and He is grieved by our sins. His grief comes partly from the fact that in our moments of sin, weare not receiving the fullness of His love for us. He even sends chastisement into our life; but He does so because He is for us, and He loves us; and He disciplines us for our ultimate good. We don’t deserve any of this, even on our best day; but this is our salvation, and herein we stand. Thank You, Jesus. Every breath, every heartbeat, every function of every organ in my body is a gift from Him. Every legitimate pleasure I experience is a gift from His loving hand to me. All that I am and all that I have I owe to Him and to His goodness.” (The Gospel Primer by Milton Vincent pg. 57,64-65)
We need to keep reminding ourselves of the precious beauty of the gospel everyday especially in those clashing MD* moments.
Sorry I haven’t written for a long time, I’ve been really busy, but let’s get to our lesson.
The two-year old squealed with delight as she unwrapped her birthday present, It was (you’ll never guess) play dough! Now ten years later as she unwrapped a gift from her parents, her mom said “this is the gift I have been waiting for you to open allday”, it was (you’ll never guess, and this time I mean it) it was… play dough? “Um really?” she thought ” I guess it’s ok, but don’t you think twelve is a little too old for play dough?”
Yes I know what it feels like in those situations, the girl in that story was (please don’t laugh) me. Some times it is hard to trust that our what our parents are doing is good, but some times it is hard for them to let go of you. Some times I get mad because I know that what my mom would never let me do, she lets my little sister do. (when she is my age of course) That probably won’t happen to you, unless you are the oldest though. But back to the story, I actually played with the play dough and guess what it was fun 🙂 !!!
To Make: roll play dough into small balls, flatten into oval-shaped, “peddles.” form it until it looks bowl-shaped and add a yellow circle 🙂
What an exciting concept a blog is! I am overjoyed to write a blog with my daughter, Isabel and to write about what God is up to in our lives. I am a homeschooling mom of not just a 12 year old daughter, but a 9 year old energetic and curious little man named Rory and a 6 year old little princess named Esther. My husband, Jim, is an amazingly talented man of God and we are so thankful to be on this journey together. When we said, “I do” on October 9, 1998, neither of us saw what God’s wonderful plan entailed, we just loved each other and were swept up in the romance of being newly weds. After the glow of being newlyweds faded, I began to see empty places in my heart that nothing seemed to fill. But I went on with living my life without God. I even stopped going to church regularly and I was falling into depression, gaining weight and struggling with my career. 2 years later and a few months we had our first child, a little preemie daughter Isabel Maureen. I had no idea what God was up to. But suddenly the empty spaces in my life were being filled and there was joy again for a little while. Isabel was born 10 weeks early, so I didn’t get to bring her home until she was 5 weeks old. I was so thankful to have those nurses help me learn how to take care of my preemie girl while she was in the hospital. I loved being with Isabel. I was able to be with her daily those 5 weeks thanks to my husband, my parents and my mother and father in law. They were so faithful to drive me because I was unable because I had had a c-section. The day came when we got to bring our sweet baby home and we were overjoyed and a little nervous to actually do it on our own. But God uses all things for His glory, even through our trials. Once again I was falling into depression, gaining weight and struggling daily. I didn’t realize how God was calling out to me. In one of my journal entries, I wrote, I have been in such a deep blue funk this week. I feel so alone when I am home all day, even though my sweet 7 month old daughter is by my side, . I am so lonely. I had strayed so far away from my faith that I was drowning in my emotions and full of self-pity. I tried to fill those empty places by visiting my sister and her family when my husband would travel or with yummy foods and even though they helped quite a lot there was still something missing. My everyday life was not working. I began going back to church. I was raised Roman Catholic and found much comfort going back to the roots of my faith. I was also reading God’s word more regularly, still struggling to fill those empty places. I also found a wonderful group of ladies at a couple nearby churches that shared their faith with me and encouraged me to trust God with every detail of my life. I yearned to know Him more and began to learn about the living Gospel. This of course did not happen over night, but it continues to grow day by day, little by little. I look forward to bloging more about how God is working in my everyday life.